As spectators, parents should display the same good sporting behavior as EOSC expects from coaches, referees, and players. Unfortunately, some parents get carried away and copy the same unsportsmanlike behavior that spectators of professional sports often exhibit. The young athletes playing soccer for EOSC are not professionals - they're kids. They need spectators to show respect for teams (both home and opponent), players, coaches, referees and for the game!
Spectators at children's soccer games seem to fall into three categories - guess which one is appropriate!
The Positive Encourager
- appreciates that these are kids playing a great kids' game.
- respects the coach by leaving that task to the coach.
- respects the players by not telling them how to play their game.
- respects the referee by not dissenting.
- cheers every child's successes (including those on the other team).
- cheers in a positive and encouraging way.
- speaks respectfully to players, coaches, and referees.
The "Loud Obnoxious" Spectator
- loudly yells at players, referees, and the "other" team during the game.
- vents frustrations with game play and referee calls out loud.
- frightens kids with loud yelling
- embarrasses kids by loudly noting when they're out of position, missed a ball, or messed up a play.
- distracts players from their game.
- shows little respect toward the referee, coach, or other team.
The "Parent-Side" Coach
- repeatedly tells players where to run and how to move the ball during play.
- distracts and confuses the players, so that they ask "Who do I listen to, the coach or you?"
- encourages dependency rather than independent thinking in children.
- undermines the coach's strategies.
- becomes so involved in the game that kids ask "Who is playing this game, me or you?
- encourages players to "coach" their teammates, resulting in ill will and anger on the team.
If you concluded that the appropriate role for EOSC spectators is the Positive Encourager, then you're well on the way to becoming a supportive youth soccer spectator!
